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As I mentioned on my about page, one of my passions in life is raising awareness about Mental Health.
Over time, I have learned that the state of our mental health often has a lot to do with the painful/traumatic experiences of our past (along with additional factors).
But before you read any further, I want to provide you with a very brief definition of trauma (as this will be a topic I discuss a lot in future posts).
It is also important for you to know that the definition provided below is simplified, and is only intended to provide you with clarity, and a general understanding of what trauma is.
What is trauma?
When we experience something traumatic, it usually negatively affects the way we think, feel, and perceive the world.
To be more specific, experiencing something traumatic has the potential to alter the way our brains function.
Unhealed trauma may also impact our ability to cope with emotions and life challenges in a healthy way.
If what you’ve been through has hurt you on a deep level physically, emotionally, or mentally, and has shifted the way you feel about yourself, people, and outlook on life, I want you to know that your experience matters, and deserves to be acknowledged, nurtured, and eventually, healed.
Finding clarity
When I first began my healing journey, I had NO CLUE where to begin. I struggled with the question:
“How do you learn to heal when you have no idea where or how to start?”
What I knew for certain was that I was tired of feeling
- insecure
- triggered
- easily irritated
- comparing myself to other people
- inadequate
- highly critical of myself… the list seemed endless.
Along the way, I have learned that insecurity, misplaced anger, low self-esteem, people pleasing behaviors (to name a few) are usually symptoms of a much deeper internal wound.
& if you can relate to anything I’ve shared so far, you understand just how difficult it is to not only talk about our pain, but to also feel worthy of being heard.
Where can you begin?
The good news is that you’ve already started just by wanting better for yourself.
To give you some ideas about where to begin in your own journey,
Below are three main concepts that helped me get started.
The healing journey begins the moment you decide:
“I want better for myself. For a long time I’ve viewed life through the lens of my pain and trauma. But living in peace, healing, and clarity is possible for me.”
You must actively choose to remind yourself – everyday, (especially on the hard days) that peace, healing, and clarity are possibilities for you. This will not always be easy, nor will you always feel like doing the work. That is why it’s important to renew this commitment to yourself every single day.
When I begin to question my progress, I remind myself that developing an unhealthy perspective on life did not happen overnight. These viewpoints usually form when we are exposed to painful experiences consistently.
The same is true of trying to shift negative thoughts and beliefs. It takes time.
Consider this… How long have you been living in defense mode? Our minds work hard to protect us. Give your brain time to adjust when being introduced to new perspectives, and to realize that you are safe now.
Healing is a Journey
It is important that you understand that healing is in fact, a journey.
Along the way, you will meet parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed, and more importantly you begin to see yourself as someone who is deserving of an abundant life, healthy love, divine opportunities, and peace of mind.
Doing the work along the way will be worth it. No matter how challenging it gets… remember that you deserve to live a life free from heartache & pain.
No matter where you may be in your healing journey, it is important that you surround yourself with people, things, and places that support the person you are trying to become.
By sharing my experiences and words of encouragement that have helped me, I pray that you are blessed and find the clarity, and understanding you are searching for.
It is my belief that there are few things in life more important than human connection. We are not meant to go through life feeling alone. I pray that you find the courage to face your hard truths, and to unpack them as you walk your path.
DISCLAIMER: The information, posts, graphics, resources on this website are for informational/motivational purposes only. This content is NOT intended to replace professional mental health care, or attempt to diagnose, treat/cure, any mental health disorders. The information provided should not be used as an alternative to seeking support from medical professionals. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions or concerns you may have regarding a mental health condition. If you are experiencing an immediate emergency, please call 911.
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