Hello,
& Welcome, I am truly happy to have you here. 🙂
I would like to share something with you…
These last few years, I have experienced a lot of disappointment.
Can you relate?
Friendships & relationships ending with people I imagined “forever” with, several opportunities not working out, betrayal, sickness, and feeling overlooked.
Each of these situations caused me to withdraw and retreat further into my “shell.”
I started to keep people at a distance because I did not want to risk being hurt again.
I also limited the opportunities I pursued. I played it safe. I did not want to face rejection, disappointment, or being let down, yet again.
When good things happen in my life, there was (and sometimes still is) a part of me that struggles to live in the moment and fully enjoy my blessing(s).
I am usually thinking way ahead to “what if” this thing goes away suddenly… Maybe it will hurt less if I don’t become attached to that person, or the outcome of that situation.
Being let down (repeatedly) after having high hopes for something can make you wonder,
“What’s the point in hoping for better if better never comes?” or
“I don’t want to get my hopes up again, that last situation was way too painful. I will not allow myself to go through that again.”
But the truth is, we were never meant to live our lives feeling hopeless, playing it safe or feeling small. I know this is easier said than done because disappointment truly hurts.
I want to encourage you and remind you that your blessings are on the way.
Your breakthrough is coming.
Here are a few reminders to keep in mind while you are hoping, and waiting.
1. Nothing is ever wasted
God cares about every detail of your life. Even the things that may seem small or insignificant. It ALL matters to Him.
Therefore, you can be certain that He has seen your tears. Your frustration, heartache, confusion, loneliness, and the rejection and abandonment you’ve experienced.
The things that matter to you, mean everything to Him… even when it may not always feel that way.
Nothing you go through in this life is ever a waste or too small for God to care about.
2. A plan for your life
When I reflect on some of the most disappointing situations in my life, I realize that I was always being led to something better and more aligned with who God called me to be.
The same is true for you. There is a plan and unique design for your life.
It is possible for you to feel real joy and fulfillment right here on Earth.
3. Everything is working out for you
Being “rejected” from something you want is sometimes protection from unseen circumstances that may harm you down the road.
When relationships or friendships end, it is an opportunity for you to grow and self reflect. Which in turn will attract the right people into your life.
When one (or multiple) opportunities fall through, trust that something else will come. Yes, that “missed opportunity” may have been good… but it will not be the last or best opportunity you will ever receive.
In the moment, disappointment is PAINFUL. But please know that there is always, always, always something better making its way to you.
4. You are deserving
Allow yourself to be happy when you receive your blessings, or when something good happens to you.
When you truly receive your blessings, there is acceptance in your heart. You are affirming to yourself the truth that says
“I am worthy. I am deserving of good things.”
Soak it in and truly embrace everything you’ve prayed for. Self-doubt & insecurity may try to convince you that you are underserving or maybe “it’s too good to be true.”
But that voice is wrong. You deserve a life that feels good inside and outside.
You are meant to experience all of the blessings life has to offer.
Happiness, love, success, community, laughter, support, and kindness, encouragement, comfort, peace… All of it.
5. Better is coming
It may feel like disappointment is all you will ever know because it is something you’ve experienced so much in life.
But God wants you to know that your life will not always be filled with so much heartache and pain.
You will not always feel this alone, depressed, and anxious.
God does not want to see you fail. Nor does He care more about other people than He cares about you.
He loves you as though you were the only human being left on this planet.
It may feel “safer” to not get your hopes up because circumstances have led you to believe that things never work out for you.
But again, nothing in your life is ever a waste. It can ALL be used for your highest good.
Yes, it may be a risk being open again, trusting again, pursuing opportunities you’ve always wanted – but taking (Safe + Healthy) risks allows us to grow in character, and eventually find what is alignment with who we are becoming.
You become stronger each time you are faced with hardship and you continue pressing forward through the pain. That is not an easy thing to do, and you should be very proud of yourself.
Above all else, remain hopeful and trust that God is working everything out for your good.
Be blessed & remember that you are loved,
Alex says
Love this!! This space is safe and inspirational, thank you for sharing ♥️
Ashley M. Johnson says
I am happy you feel at ease being here <3