You are surrounded by people, yet you feel out of place and cannot help but wonder why you aren’t enjoying yourself like everyone else around you seems to be.
You make small talk, force a laugh, and do your best to keep a smile on your face. But inside, you are distant & part of you wishes someone would ask “How are you really?”
I can relate. If you can identify with anything I’ve just described, I want you to know that you are understood & seen. You are not invisible.
Society, life experiences, (along with other factors) have subconsciously taught us to deal with our issues on our own & to retreat when we feel sadness, and painful emotions.
Some may believe that if you are struggling to be happy, or to find joy, it absolutely must be your fault and you aren’t trying hard enough.
We are told to “look on the bright side.” “be more positive.” “there are people who have it much worse.” This advice isn’t necessarily harmful.
However, it can quickly become harmful when we start to believe that we must be happy and positive 24/7.
It is my belief that the human experience is not about being happy ALL the time. But rather, coming face to face with and accepting every single part of who we are. This includes the parts of us that we may try to hide away from the world.
The days we feel upset, afraid, lonely, insecure. All of it. You are still worth loving.
It is important that you know that struggling to look on the bright side, and to be more positive is not something you should be ashamed of.
This internal struggle usually means that there is something inside of you that needs your attention, love & care.
Your pain deserves the space to be heard.
I know that it may not feel like it now, but life won’t always feel this heavy. Some of the best, most fulfilling days of your life are still ahead of you.
You will find people who truly understand, love, and cherish every single part of you.
People you won’t have to pretend to be okay around because they will hear you loud and clear, even in your silence.
You will find the true belonging you’ve been searching for. & most importantly, you won’t always feel alone in a crowded room.
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